Your True Personal Power Within

The magnitude of the power within you is IMMENSE! I’m sure you, just like me had NO IDEA what that even meant.

It was something I had a sense of, but I could never put my finger on it or even comprehend what that was. All I knew, was what I knew and I most certainly was not taught it anywhere.

It wasn’t until a I took a journey within to fully understand myself, which then led me to further study and training to understand the power of the mind. Then I blew my own mind…..

All of your power lies within your mind, in fact, the life outside of you is a projection of your mind, to be more specific, a projection of you current belief system. So we created our current reality in our mind first before it was project out onto the screen. Some, obviously to our taste, and some not to our taste. This is happening at an unconscious level of our mind, until we make it conscious, which is where we have our super power of choice. It is the very reason why I LOVE NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) so much, it seeks to make the unconscious conscious and is very outcome orientated.

This can either be scary or empowering, I choose empowering, because you are in charge of changing that at ANY time – this is your power.

We live by two thought systems at any given moment in time (the work of Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung), one keeps us out of our power and that is “the false self”, the other being our “true self”, keeps is in our authentic natural power.

The true self does not just know the following on an intellectual level, but it is a deep sense of self identity. The true self knows it is:

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• Worthy

• Loveable

• Deserving

• Grateful

• Authentic

• Open to the flow of life

• Comfortable with oneself

• Not needing validation from the outside world

Imagine living your life with THIS knowing instead?

How different would your life be?

How would you show up on a day to day basis?

What would that look  like for you?

I would even encourage you right now to take a few minutes contemplating this, because THIS is the truth of you, it is not enough to just know it, you need to fully BELIEVE it in your mind.

Herein lies the problem, most at a conscious level will say, “Of course I believe I am worthy”, but it is not the conscious mind that hold’s our belief system, it is the subconscious mind (the part of the mind that is running everything)  and if it does not have that coded in a neural pathway, it is unlikely that you live in that knowing.

Examples of how the false self can show up?

• Are you constantly worried about what other people think?

• Do you flip between anxiety and depression?

• Do you have trouble letting go of the past?

• Do you take things personally and have a hard time managing your emotions

• Do you self criticize?

• Are you stuck in the same emotional patterns

• Do you expect others to act in a certain way in order for you to feel worth?

Answering YES to any of the above will mean that you are living within the false self thought system.

Now, let’s look at the other spectrum, the more empowering thought system.

How do you know if you are in true power, your true identity?

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• You will be immune to criticism and open to feedback

• You will have a sense of equality with others, you are not beneath nor superior to anyone

• You are not afraid to speak your truth, even when it feels super uncomfortable and is not the popular narrative

• You have a sense of knowing when to defer or when to assert yourself in situations

• You do not need any outside validation from external circumstances

• You do not have a desire for life to look a certain way in order for you to be in your truth

• You have the utmost love and compassion for yourself and others, holding them in their true power

 The power with you is huge, it is not something you need to fight or search for, it is within you NOW, you just don’t believe it to be true, so our role becomes removing the barriers, otherwise known as the self limiting beliefs to knowing that true self. It is yours to be reclaimed.

Are you ready to reclaim your power within?

If you are wanting to know your true self and experience living from the power within you, the check out the ways I can support you.

Chantal is an Accredited and Certified Nutrition & Wellness Coach, EFT & NLP Practitioner that helps empower and inspire mums and women just like you to lovingly nourish and nurture their body and mind so that they can show up as the VERY best version of them self.

Lets talk motivation

As  a coach it is not my job to  motivate you, but I can help you find the motivation that resides inside you.

“You’ll see it when you believe it” - Wayne Dwyer

Our beliefs are shaping our thoughts, which activate feelings which informs our actions that ultimately results in the CURRENT REALITY. So it stands to reason that we cannot just make change at the behaviour/ action/doing level because what is underpinning that is the BELIEF.

If you hear me bang on enough, you will know that I always talk about the ROOT CAUSE, in this case the root cause is the belief. Action level is still symptom management and a very surface level approach with short term results.

 Quite often it is not about needing more information, because you already know what you should be doing, but not doing it. The information just sparks off motivation to get you started, but does not seal the deal for in terms of a long term change.

You have to ask yourself, where is the motivation for change coming from? Is it fear based or development based?

So what is it that motivates us?

There are 2 types of fear based motivation:

1. Deficiency based, aka lack.

   • This type of motivation shows up in ‘SHOULDs’. I should exercise today, I should eat this broccoli. The person is not doing the ‘right action’ because they truly want to do it, but because an external source of pressure says do it.

2. Threat based

   • This type of motivation can propel us to action because of known, unknown threats, illness avoidance or environmental threats. It is my observation that this is more post people operate from.

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Quite often with this type of fear based motivation, it may get you started but does not stack up in terms of long term sustainable change. The challenge will always be to continue to behave in the ‘healthier new way’.

Someone will usually begin wellness coaching with someone because they tried the ‘solo’ route many times and have been unsuccessful.

What if we took a different perspective and looked at development based motivation?

Development based motivation is really aimed at personal growth and is based on Maslow’s hierarchy of needs with the view that all of us have a need to actualise our potential.

“One can choose to go toward safety or forward towards growth. Growth must be chosen again and again, fear must be overcome again and again” - Abraham Maslow

Jay Kimiecik, author of the book “The Intrinsic Exerciser” says that some of best motivation comes from within. It is an outer expression of an inner motivation, the internal drive to be more of who we truly are.

 Another view point for motivation is where is it coming from, Love or Fear?

Truly ask, where is the motivation coming from? One based on love is more than likely going to lead to the long term sustainable change you were after and provide a sense of accomplishment, self confidence and self esteem. Motivation based on fear will keep you stuck on the never ending cycle of starting and never finishing, otherwise known as lack and limitation.

 Overall summary for motivation:

• It is either fear based on development based

• There are 2 types of fear based motivation:

  • Deficiency

  • Threat

• Fear based motivation gets you started, but is not sustainable for long term change

• Development based motivation is based on personal growth, love and self-actualisation

In essence the question to ask yourself is, “Where is my motivation coming from?” and “Can I achieve this alone?”

If you are sick and tired of the solo journey and ready to get results fast, then email me on info@chantalkhoury.com.au for a FREE chat.

If you want to carry on the conversation and start your health transformation journey, then join me in the FB Group, Empowered Mums. Just click the link below:

Chantal is a Certified & Accredited Nutrition & Wellness Coach on a mission to empower mothers and women to show up as the best version of themselves physically and mentally so that they can empower the next generation with health and resiliency. She has a special interest in healing nutrition and mindset transformation.

Educate and Inspire vs Diagnose and Treat - the role of coaching

In the conventional medical health model, it is typically all about prescribe and treat, otherwise known as let’s look at what is wrong with you and treat that in isolation. This does not leave the patient in a very empowered position.

Let’s be clear, modern medicine is nothing short of being genius when it comes to acute conditions and emergency situations, but does very little from a preventative approach.

So whilst medicine appears to be very physiological, the success rate is often determined by the psychological aspects. In the field of behavioural medicine , there is an understanding that nothing is physiological, but psycho-physiological instead. In simple terms this means that there is no separation between a persons mind and body. They work together and impact each other, therefore you cannot look at any symptom in isolation.

This is where wellness coaching becomes golden, it is focused to look at the person as a whole from a holistic approach to induce positive behaviour change to achieve a desired health outcome.

We are in an age where it is not enough to just know information, you need to act on it.

How do we make this action happen is the jackpot question?

According to Integrative and Functional Medicine, much if not most of health comes down to lifestyle behavioural change from a holistic point of view.

This is realms of health and wellness coaching, it is there to not only educate in a specialised area, but to also inspire and support the growth and development of the client. Coaching is seen to be standing by the client, with them and next to them, so eloquently explained by Michael Arloski as mountain guides. The mountain guides do not climb the mountain for people, but instead help them by:

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• Planning the climb

• Assessing the physical and mental readiness to climb

• Examining whether the climber is equipped with the right tools to climb

• Together plan the best route

• Does not force the climber to climb the mountain, the motivation to climb must come from the climber

• At times when the climber is discouraged, the guides gently supports the climber to reach a little deeper and keep going

A health and wellness coach is like a good mountain guide that is providing you support and accountability.

Whilst it may seem like the ‘action’ that is needed is simple, yet you struggle to do what you know you should be and then you beat yourself up about it! You will be pleased to know that none of it is your fault, but has everything to do with how your mind is currently wired in terms your beliefs, thoughts and feelings which are informing your actions. Trying to make any sort of long term sustaining change is next to impossible without examining this aspect.

Join me inside the Empowered Mums Group where I dive into this much more along side the right actions to take at the root cause level.

Chantal is a Certified & Accredited Nutrition and Wellness Coach on a mission to help stressed and overwhelmed mums transform their physical and mental health so that they feel energised, confident and calm to build a thriving resilient healthy happy family.

Could a critter be the reason for your symptoms?

OK, in technical terms the critter is referred to as a parasite.

A parasitic infection could be linked to so many symptoms and can go undiagnosed.

A parasite infection is closely linked to immune health, if the immune system is strong and healthy, it could easily rid the body of the parasite naturally as nature intended. However most immune systems are comprised therefore leaving the body less able to handle such an invasion.

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 So whilst it may seem like the critter is to blame, it is not really, the real culprit is the health of the gut where 70-90% of immune cells reside, so focusing solely on removal of the parasite is counter productive without looking at the core of the issue which is the gut and immune system in conjunction.

Some warning signs of a parasite infection (but not limited to):

• Chronic digestive issues from top to bottom

  • poor or inconsistent bowel movements

  • vomiting

• Autoimmune disorders

• Depression

• Anxiety

• Body aches

• Headaches

• Eye aches

• Behavioural changes

• General malaise or fatigue

 There are a plethora different species at play most of which can easily be detected via a poo test from your local GP.

 Keeping in mind, whilst removing the parasite may be successful via natural or pharmaceutical methods, the body still requires a level of rebuilding to ensure the problem does not persist or return.

Foods to include which are considered anti-parasitic:

• Garlic – this can even used as a suppository if you are game

• Coconut oil

• Apple cider vinegar

• Hazelnuts

• Pumpkin seeds

The purpose of these foods are to create an environment that the parasites do not want to be in. It is also beneficial to eliminate refined sugars, processed foods to speed up the eliminating process and create an environment for healing.

You quick take away action if suspect there could be a parasite:

1. Clean up the diet

2. Include anti-parasitic foods

3. Remove refined sugar and processed foods

4. If symptoms persist, consult your local GP to do a poo test or work closely with an integrative or functional practitioner.

Chantal is a Certified and Accredited Nutrition & Wellness Coach with a special interest helping stressed and overwhelmed mums and women to fully transform their physical and emotional health.